I know there are a huge array of self-help books, motivational seminars, and books, as well as therapies, modalities, gurus, counsellors, coaches, spiritual leaders, thinkers, and philosophers. And, "THEY" offer meaningful pearls of wisdom and directives on how we should, could, ought to be, do, how to think and feel in order to finally be happy, fulfilled, transformed, live with purpose, be in love, stay in love, attract love, love ourselves, love one another, be mindful, spiritual, set your intentions, manifest your dreams and achieve financial success, your dream career, soulmate, home, and life style, and be or stay spiritual. And then you have an equal number of messages telling us what NOT to do.
What became clear to me: Like resolutions, we do, really want to do, have, or be, a certain something and act in a certain way. We set out determined to make the necessary changes that will access all of the things I just mentioned but alas, we don't, or can't seem to stick to new behaviours that would get us what we say we want!
Naturally, and quite obviously this leads to a great deal of BAD stuff. Frustration, guilt, (what’s wrong with me?) anger, frustration, confusion, victim mode. It is a huge.
I've figured out a lot of things about what makes most of us happy, or worse, unhappy. As unique and amazing as we all are, we NEED and want many of the same things.
We are living in a complex world. Endless possibilities seem to be competing with contradictions and messages and scripts shouting "you should" or "ought". The collaboration often starts with having the courage to look at the things that may be off-track, particularly if your script dictates that you're "supposed" to be happy, perfect and intelligent to collaborate with a professional.
Guess what? Most of the most successful, happy, intelligent people you've heard of probably get therapy and have support! It's often an enormous contributing factor to their success and achieving balance in their lives.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves; Who I am to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Who are you not to be? - Marianne Williamson